Six Things Not To Say

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Posted by: Steve Hardwick
Date: Jul 27 2024 9:31 AM

July Is Bereaved Parents Awareness Month

Let Me Give You Six Things Never Ever Say To A Parent Grieving Over The Loss Of A Child

1. Time heals all wounds

2. Let go… Move on. You’d feel better if you let go/move on… You’re hanging onto him or her too much, that’s why you’re so sad… If you’d just let go, you could start living again…

Anything that implies “get over it” will only add more unnecessary pain and hurt to a bereaved parents’ already gaping, oozing wounds.

What on earth is left for grieving parents to “let go of” when they’ve already lost the most precious treasure of their entire life to death

3. Have Faith…If you’d trust God, you wouldn’t be suffering so much.

Guess what? Grief is not indicative of a lack of faith. Ever. So stop playing the faith card in an attempt to comfort someone who is suffering the worst human pain IMAGINABLE!!

4. Everything happens for a reason.

5. At least.
Any sentence starting with at least should never be spoken to a bereaved parent. Never. Ever.

“At least she didn’t suffer… At least he died young… (??!!!) At least you can have more children… At least you got as long as you did with her… At least it was quick and painless… At least you were blessed to have him or her at all.”

There is no “at least” in childloss. None

6. Be thankful. Be thankful you can have more children (newsflash: not everyone can!)… Be grateful for your living children… Be thankful you had him or her at all.

Telling someone who has lost more than you can ever imagine being thankful, is like slapping her in the face instead of hugging her. Seriously. Don’t do it.

You better believe any bereaved parent in the world could school you in the art of being thankful.
(By Still Standing Contributor Angela Miller of A Bed For My Heart )

Let Me Give You 3 Things You Can Do…

1) HUG THEM

2) HOLD THEIR HAND

3) LISTEN
LET THEM TELL YOU ABOUT THEIR CHILD 

Steve Hardwick 

Wiregrass Angel Of Hope

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